This month’s Mama Renewed is Amanda, who describes herself as a mover and shaker – a lover of dancing and a soulful activist. We supported her through new motherhood in a Mothers Unfolding group, and now as a seasoned mother with our new Mama Renew group on Vancouver Island.
I am mama to Cosmo-Rae, my wondrous four year old girl, and life partner to wonderful Kevin. I’ve been working for the last decade as an organizer, advocate and facilitator in the student movement as well as involved in several social justice pursuits. Three words to describe me are Loving, Compassionate, and Striving.
Why Mama Renew?
When my daughter was only 4 weeks old I joined a Mothers Unfolding group in Vancouver. I was able to get some distance from my experience of complete overwhelm and learn to breathe for myself, along side my babe. It is no surprise then, that when another major life transition occurred I immediately sought the support of Mama Renew.
I recently moved with my family from bustling East Vancouver to the beautiful Cowichan Valley. I had a strong sense that Mama Renew would help me grow some friendships and community. I also wanted to give one of the most precious gifts to myself; dedicated time to explore my inner being.
I discovered that what I have been doing for self-care since my daughter was born no longer meets my needs and desires. When she was a baby I counted on deliciously long showers, dancing, and copious amounts of fantastic face cream each night. The sessions gave me a chance to reflect on my core needs and doing so has transformed my idea of self-care. I now know that I do best when I create the time and space to go inward, feeling my core self and listening within.
I loved exploring the concepts of ‘village’ and asking for help. These ideas are at the heart of my personal vision for the world and yet I often struggle to be intimate in community and won’t easily ask for help.
I also experienced the blessed richness that comes from women gathering with intent. I was reminded how when women are given the chance to be real with each other, shared wisdom flows and we all become stronger for it.
I often have a hard time knowing what to let go of and what to say no to. I’m a yes person, seeing the mighty oak in the acorn comes easily to me. However it can get distorted just as easily. I want to learn the power of discernment – learning to say no to the right things.
Moving from a large city to a town, leaving my beloved work and watching my child make greater steps towards her independence meant that I needed to get some insight and find renewed inspiration for the journey ahead. Mama Renew has done that for me and I feel gratitude.